Are You a Doormat?

By: Brian Whitney
Estimated Completion Time
9 min
Are You a Doormat?
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About This Quiz

While some people sit firmly in the middle, there usually are just two kinds of people in this world, those who take advantage of others, and those who get taken advantage of. Are you one of the people that walk on others? Or are you a doormat?
When you are your boyfriend/girlfriend go out to eat, who decides where to go?
You never decide where you are going to eat out, you always defer to them.
You usually weigh in, but you leave the decision up to them.
You listen to what they might say, but they usually make the decision.
You always choose where we go out to eat.

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When you are making love, who takes the lead?
You always let your partner do their thing in bed and you follow along.
You know what you like, but you usually defer to your partner.
You take the lead, but you want to make my partner happy too.
You always take the lead, my pleasure comes first.

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Are your parents proud of you?
You hope so , you certainly try to make them happy.
You are pretty sure they are because you have done a lot of things you think would make them proud.
They are proud of you because you have followed your dreams.
You don't care because you do what you want to do.

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What would you do if your best friend wanted to borrow some money?
You would give it to them no questions asked.
You would ask why and if it was a good reason you would give it to him.
If they had a really good reason you might help, but money is tight.
You would tell them no. What do you look like, a bank?

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Do you feel that you are respected at your job?
No, but you keep working to change that.
Sometimes you do, but you still get paranoid about your job performance.
Yes, you work hard to do my job right.
You are not sure but you don't really care what anyone at work thinks of you.

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If your best friend asked you to help them cheat on a test, what would you do?
You would help because that is what friends do.
You would help, but later you would ask why they put you in that position.
No way, you're not getting into trouble for them.
No, and you would tell the teacher immediately.

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Are you comfortable when you meet new people?
No because you are really nervous, but you smile and do your best to make them feel at ease.
Not really, but it doesn't take long before you do.
Sure, you just shake hands and make eye contact.
Of course. Sometimes other people seem uncomfortable around you though.

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What would you do if you caught your boyfriend/girlfriend stealing money from you?
Nothing, you probably wouldn't even bring it up. They must have had a good reason.
You would say something, but you wouldn't make a huge deal of it, because it is only money.
You would be mad and would need to know what was going on and reason they did it.
You would break up with them immediately.

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If your boss told you to do something you thought was stupid, what would you do?
You would do it without question, they're my boss after all.
You would do it, but you wouldn't like it.
You might ask my boss why they wanted you to do it, but you would not say no.
You would tell them no and if they gave you a hard time you would quit.

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What do you do if a server at a restaurant brings you a steak that is improperly prepared?
You would eat it and not say anything. It isn't their fault it was cooked incorrectly.
You would say something to the person you was eating with and hope they'll bring it up.
You would ask for them to take it back and prepare it correctly.
You would demand they take it back, prepare it correctly, and ask for a free meal.

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What do you do when someone cuts in front of you in a line?
Nothing, they are probably in a hurry.
You don't do anything but sigh loudly and give them dirty looks.
You confront them and ask them to get behind you.
You cut right back in front of them.

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Your friends are pressuring you to drink more than you want to, what do you do?
You keep drinking. They are just trying to be nice.
You have one more, stop, and put your foot down.
You tell them to stop pressuring you because you don't want anymore.
You tell them no and then find new friends.

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If your friend is wearing something that looks awful and asks your opinion, what do you do?
Say that they look fantastic.
You say that you like it, but try and steer them in another direction.
You tell the truth: only good friends are honest.
You tell them that they look really stupid.

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You just found out your spouse cheated on you, what do you do?
You say that it's okay and hope that you can still be together.
You say that you need a break and that you should go to counseling to see if you can work it out.
You say that you need a separation should not talk for a while.
You would leave immediately and start divorce proceedings the next day.

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What would you do if your roommate ate all of your snacks?
You would just buy more, that kind of thing is no big deal.
You would eat some of their snacks to get back at them.
You would have a conversation with them about boundaries.
You would ask them to leave as soon as possible.

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People in front of you keep talking at the movies, what do you do?
Nothing, you can still hear the movie, kind of.
You sigh loudly and kick the chair.
You respectfully try and shush them so you can hear the movie.
You go to management and have them removed.

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Your coworker takes a lot of breaks when your boss is not around. How do you handle it?
You just work harder to cover the slack.
You work harder, but then you call in sick the next day.
You confront them about it and say they have to pick up the slack.
You make notes of what they are doing, go to the boss, and attempt to get them fired.

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Your spouse says you need to lose weight, how do you handle it?
You apologize and say you will work harder at getting in shape.
You get upset, but the next day go to the gym.
You tell my spouse how much what they said hurt you.
You pick something that you don't like about their appearance and attack them about it.

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Where do guests stay when they visit you?
In your bed, you sleep on the couch.
You give them the option of your bed or the couch.
Unless they are old or have physical issues, they sleep on the couch.
They sleep on the couch.

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What do you do if someone tries to pay for you?
You refuse to let it happen, you always pay your way.
You argue with them about it and try to pay.
You ask if they are sure, and if they say yes you let them.
You say "Thank you". You like it when people pay for you.

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Would you lie if you thought the truth might upset someone?
Of course, you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.
It depends on the situation, but sometimes you would.
You try not to lie, so it would have to be a special circumstance.
No way. You don't owe anyone a lie to make them feel good.

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Do you ever yell at someone when you are mad?
No. You could never do that.
Only once or twice in your life and you were really angry..
Of course, it is good not to hold in your anger.
Yes, if someone angers you they are going to know it.

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How does it make you feel when someone dislikes you?
You feel awful about it.
You don't like it, but you can't change people's minds.
You don't let it affect you too much.
It does not bother you at all, they are probably just jealous.

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Do you make fun of people when they are not around?
No, you would feel awful if someone did that to you.
You try not to, but sometimes you can't help it.
Sure, sometimes you do. Doesn't everyone?
Sure, if they deserve it, why not?

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Your best friend told one of your secrets, what do you do?
Nothing, you are sure it was an innocent mistake.
You don't say anything, but you won't trust them in the future.
You confront them about it and ask why they did it.
You plot your revenge.

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You are a Red Sox fan and you move to New York, do you now like the Yankees?
Sure! That is what everyone else around you likes, so why not?
You still like the Red Sox, but you sometimes go to Yankee games.
No way, but you sometimes watch them on television.
No way, any Red Sox fan that roots for the Yankees is disgusting.

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A salesperson keeps trying to sell you something you don't want, how do you handle it?
You buy the item just to get them to go away.
You don't buy the item, but you do try it on.
You ignore them and leave the store.
You look them in the eye and tell them to leave you alone.

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You want to stay in, but your friend wants to go out, what do you do?
You go out because that is what friends do.
You go out, but tell your friend you are going so stay in next time.
You stay in and try to get your friend to stay in with you.
You ask your friend to leave.

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Your friend wants to borrow your car, but last time they did the gas tank was empty, what do you do?
Let them borrow it, the gas thing is no big deal.
Let them borrow it and ask if they could put a little gas in.
Say yes, but tell them if they don't gas it up, you wont let them do it again.
There is no way they borrow your car: they only get one chance.

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How often do you say the word "Sorry"?
All the time, you are always screwing up.
You say it a lot because it makes people feel better.
You only say it when you really mean it and you have done something wrong.
Never. Your actions don't affect other people, their actions do.

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