What Is Your Standard of Love?

By: Elisabeth Henderson
Estimated Completion Time
6 min
What Is Your Standard of Love?
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About This Quiz

Everyone knows what we’re talking about when we talk about love, right? Well, maybe not. Merriam-Webster dictionary offers several different definitions of love, ranging from strong affection to sexual attraction to admiration. The question of what makes us fall in love with a particular person remains an open one in psychology. 

According to Psychology Today, researchers argue that people fall in love due to having something in common, spending time together, finding the other person attractive, and having a feeling that the person likes you. In addition to these “attraction attributes,” the concerns of whether your social circle approves of a relationship and whether they will fill your personal needs also play a large part in shifting the tectonic plates of attraction to the earthquake of love. 

Most people likely fall in love based on these attributes, but some people place a higher value on certain attributes than others. For some, the physical attraction and arousal felt for a person may be the determining factor that catapults them into love. Others may not care so deeply about the outer appearance and seek a beautiful mind to explore. Of course, some people just want to have it all and set a gold standard for their love, holding out hope for a dashingly attractive, intelligent, romantic and wealthy partner to ride up on a white horse. 

Which attributes put you over the edge of love’s cliff? Jump into this quiz to find out! 

Q1
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When your friend tells you they have someone for you to meet and is bringing them to dinner tonight, what’s your first question?
Tell me everything!
Are they attractive?
Where did they go to school?
What do they do for a living?

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Q2
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You’re at a coffee shop, and you see someone who looks like they have potential. What is it about them that catches your eye?
They’re hot.
They’re reading one of my favorite books.
They have fancy shoes.
They look like they just came down off a mountain.

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Q3
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What is the perfect ending to a perfect date?
Cuddling in bed with hot chocolate
Talking about the movie until we fall asleep
A digestif drink with a fine dessert
Watching the stars till our eyes close

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Q4
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What kind of memories can you imagine that you’ll create involving trees?
Carving our initials in a tree
Kissing under a tree
Cutting down a Christmas tree
Climbing trees together

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Q5
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What do you look forward to about being in love?
Feeling like everything is right in the world
Staying in bed half the day
Having conversations with someone who is really fascinating
Having someone to travel with

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Q6
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What is the best season to be in love?
Spring
Fall
Summer
Winter

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Q7
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Which behavior is a major turn-off on a first date?
Talking with their mouth full
Not having an opinion about politics
Not paying for dinner
Wanting to see a movie instead of taking a walk

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Q8
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Which of the following would you rather have in common with a lover?
Everything
Taste in books
Taste in wine
Travel style

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Q9
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If you could win a cruise, which would you choose to take with your romantic partner?
All-inclusive with water slides and time on the beach
One with an ocean view and breakfast in bed, drinks included
A top-of-the-line luxury cruise
Alaska cruise with glacier hikes

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Q10
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What’s the best way to warm up with your love?
A hot chocolate and a warm blanket by the fire
Skin-to-skin contact
Breath work in meditation
Take a brisk walk

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Q11
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If you had a miserable week at work, how would you like to de-stress on the weekend?
Take a ride in a paddle boat
Go to the movies
Have time to read alone
Go to a fine-dining restaurant

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Q12
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What is one topic that you have to agree on in order to be happy with someone?
How much exercise we need to be healthy
Political viewpoint
What kind of neighborhood we want to live in
That camping is a good way to have fun

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Q13
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If your partner leaves town for a week, how do you expect to communicate with them?
We’ll FaceTime twice a day.
We may talk once or twice on the phone.
We’ll probably just text all day everyday.
Depending on where they’re going, we may not be able to talk.

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Q14
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What do expect would happen in a relationship if the person you were dating did not like your favorite show?
We’d have passive-aggressive fights about it.
It wouldn’t matter as long as I could watch it.
We would probably watch our shows separately.
I doubt that would happen because I don’t follow any shows.

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Q15
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If the person you were dating were really fit when you met and then stopped exercising, what would you do?
I’d suggest that they work out.
I’d probably threaten ending the relationship.
It wouldn’t bother me as long as everything was OK with their work.
I would secretly be worried that they were going to change.

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Q16
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When you describe someone you’re dating to your best friend, what do you focus on?
How everything seems so perfect
Their looks
Their brains
Their career

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Q17
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How do you typically take in the news?
I don’t really keep up with the news.
I listen to it on public radio.
I keep up with stock markets on my phone.
I read the paper.

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Q18
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If you are going on a blind date and you realize the person is not at all attractive, what do you do?
Go through with the date but don’t answer calls
Make up an excuse and leave
Find out what they’re like
Find out what they do for a living

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Q19
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If the person you were dating suggested that you go on a camping trip for your anniversary, how would you respond?
Is there a hotel?
I’m willing to try it, I guess.
Nope.
Where to?

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Q20
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What’s a good rainy-day date?
Watching movies inside
Going to the mall
Car shopping
Mountain biking

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Q21
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If you are cooking a romantic dinner, what will you make?
Steaks, potatoes, asparagus, fresh bread
Something with high aphrodisiac content
Vegetarian lasagna
Grill something over the fire

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Q22
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What kind of museum would you be more likely to go to on a date?
An art museum
A wax museum
A history museum
A museum with drinks

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Q23
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If the person you are dating goes out of town, what do you expect them to bring back for you?
Something kinky
Something with personal significance
Something fancy to show how much they missed me
I don’t want them to spend time shopping while traveling.

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Q24
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How would you ideally divide labor if you lived with your lover?
We’ll just naturally do equal work.
We’d make a list of what we do more naturally and make sure it’s even.
We’ll hire someone to do the housework.
We’ll check in regularly to make sure no one feels like they’re doing more than their share.

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Q25
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What type of flowers most effectively communicates your style of love?
Roses
A fresh, mixed bouquet
Orchids
Potted native plants

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Q26
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If you were fantasizing about driving with your love on a winding mountain road, what car would you be in?
A luxury sedan
A convertible Mustang
A Porsche
A camper van

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Q27
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If you were to go on a rustic holiday in the mountains, what would that look like?
A perfect cabin the woods, red-checked tablecloth and fire in the fireplace
Hanging out on a bearskin rug in front of a fire
Lots of time for reading and talking over candlelight
Hiking and biking and cooking freshly caught fish

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Q28
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What is a personality quirk that would give you second thoughts about dating somebody?
Being moody
Not wanting to be physical in public
Being averse to talking philosophy
Not watching TV

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Q29
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What is your typical answer to this question: Will you dance with me?
Just get up and dance
I’m not much of a dancer.
Maybe to the next song
If you say so ...

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Q30
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Where would you expect to find someone that you’d fall in love with?
In a park on a walk
At a coffee shop
At a party
In a hostel

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